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Sunday, May 15, 2016

The Memory of a Man

2012
One year.

The events of May 15, 2015 changed my life and the lives of many others forever. It's been a year since my husband, Barry, passed away. 

2014 Birthday
A year of tears, loneliness, and loss. A year of uncertainty mixed with grit and determination. A year of learning about cars, home repairs, finances, health insurance, and legal matters. A year of trying to think of what he might decide . . . and of learning about myself . . . without the man who would do anything for me.

It's also been a year filled with grace. A year of experiencing God's loving-kindness and mercy day after day, night after night. Even through the tears. Even when I paced the floor wondering what to do. Even when one more thing went wrong. God's grace often showed up in the form of new friends and old, who came along side at just the right time to give counsel, coach me through home projects, and offer wisdom about everything from tax questions to gardening

Barry with his siblings
So, how does one commemorate a life? What would you do? On Friday, I found our local Red Cross and gave blood. It seemed fitting in light of our car accident in 2003 when someone else's life-giving blood saved Barry's life. Our family is spending the weekend together, the girls cutting squares from Barry's shirts to make quilts. Good memories mingled with masculine patterns and the hum of sewing machines somehow seem comforting. 
Mexico in 2002

The words of Steve Green's song have played themselves over and over in my mind during these months: "May all who come behind us find us faithful." When a person passes on, everything is left behind. I've done my share of sorting Barry's "everything" over the last year. And as I've sifted through boxes and files and papers and drawers, I've found him faithful. Faithful to God. Faithful to me. Faithful to our girls.  A wonderful legacy. 
Memory Quilt, May 15, 2016


So, today as we remember Barry, I pray we will be faithful . . . in the little things and in the big things . . . and that we will run with perseverance the race marked out for us (Hebrews 12:2). 

14 comments:

  1. How beautifully written, Sarah. Thank you for letting us remember with you.

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    1. Thanks, Anne. You and Greg have been a wonderful part of his/our story. Blessings to you...

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  2. A precious post. What joy to know that going through Barry's belongings you found him faithful. The opposite is true for some wives. What added grief for them. Who joy in your grief for your Barry. My love and prayers for you and your girls. I love that you are all making a quilt from his shirts. Prayer hugs!

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    1. Thanks, Elaine, for your prayers and support. We had a nice weekend remembering and looking ahead. I enjoy keeping up with you and your travels on FB. What a wonderful ministry.

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  3. Beautiful remembrance, Sarah. A high honor to be called ... Faith-full. The quilt is a marvelous idea. A big hug for you and the girls. Love you.

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    1. You've been a great encouragement through these months, Jo Ann. Bless you!

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  4. You've been on my mind this weekend. I'm praying for you. What a beautifully written post as you reflect on the past year. Love you!

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    1. Thanks, Julie, for your love and prayers. Our Bible study group has walked together and been such an encouragement during the past year... Blessings to you as you head into summer.

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  5. What a beautiful tribute from a beautiful lady who has also been faithful! May God's love and grace continue to flow through you!

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    1. Thanks, Patti. A long year and yet it went by quickly in some ways...I've been keeping a record of God's faithfulness all along the way. Hope to see you in Montrose this summer!

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  6. Beautiful, Sarah. I hope your weekend with the girls was sweet. I feel privileged to have worked for Barry for so many years. He was a great boss and yes, very faithful. To God and to you. Hugs to you as you continue on this journey until you meet him again. ❤️

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    1. Thanks Debbie. Barry always appreciated your service. I found a few notes in your handwriting as I've been sorting through things. As you know, he saved lots of papers and books! Blessings to you.

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  7. Oh Sarah. I did not realize this was the anniversary of Barry's passing. What a sweet and powerful way to commemorate him.

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    1. Thanks so much, Cindy. Grateful for our daughters and the grandboys. We had a nice time together remembering - and looking ahead. Hope your summer is full of God's blessings.

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